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Like do I need to directly tell him my feelings and not just say "the things that I like about him"?

By the way - some background to me, I'm 23 and the guy I dated a year ago was my first relationship, and I really loved him and about 5 other major things went on in my life that were bad which is why it took so long for me to be ready. STEVE'S ANSWER-- Johann Wolfgang von Goethe THE absolute first thing that comes to mind when I read your relationship story is the difference between how clear you are when you tell him you're not interested and how UNCLEAR you are now that you are interested. At the very least, I think he deserves you to be as honest as you were before.

So now that I'm starting to show interest in him, he's distancing himself from me, but then he's back to himself with me, then he starts to withdraw - it's back and forth and things feel strained.

Is it just normal, this weird in-between stage going from friendship to relationship? I know guys should be the pursuers, but since I told him several times in the past that I wasn't ready to date, isn't it my place to pursue him a little?

So be up front, like I say above, and let him know where he stands, then give him time to adjust.

After that please feel free to challenge his behaviour if it continues to be 'less than it used to be'...

He has been a great friend, but has still pursued me - like he's showing that he wants to be with me, but he cares enough to wait until I'm ready... So I thought that I should give it a chance with Peter - he is a truly wonderful man, after all - and let him know that I'm interested in seeing where this will go.

I haven't directly said this, but I did send him a message recently telling him the things that I like about him.

Sometimes workplace romances blossom between managers and employees (that’s a whole other issue).

So how can they be expected to just turn those emotions off when they enter company property?

There was a guy I was seeing shortly after we became friends and that relationship ended badly and Peter was really there for me through it - he's the best friend that I've ever had.