So, they may feel that they have to do only what the guy wants, or they may put up with the guy ignoring them, treating them badly around other guys, being really possessive, or being violent or abusive.Both girls and boys often have the idea that boys can’t control themselves when it comes to sex.There’s just the “right thing” and the “wrong thing.” Violence and abuse are always the wrong thing.

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You start to discover society’s rules for dating and relationship behavior.

In addition, you are trying to figure out how to impress someone who is really special to you and how to be yourself in a relationship.

He forces her to have intercourse, later telling her she was a tease and asking for it. Sure, like the love songs say, love hurts sometimes. It can happen to anybody, even if you’re smart or popular or strong or sophisticated. Boys also can be pressured or forced into unwanted sex, by girls or by other boys. When it does, gay and lesbian teenagers often don’t know where to turn for help.

You worry, you wonder if the person you love really loves you, or if he or she is cheating on you. If they are not comfortable telling people that they’re gay, that makes their situation even harder.

You see all kinds of images of what relationships are supposed to be like — but how do you know which ones are the right ones to follow?

It’s hard to ignore other people’s examples of relationships — for example, if your mother and father don’t show respect for each other.Girls often accept the idea that it’s a “guy thing” to push girls around, and so they should learn to go along with it.Girls also may believe it’s a “girl thing” to try to figure out and do whatever will keep their boyfriends happy.Alfredo and Maria, who have been going out for a few weeks, are making out. At first, if it happens to you or to a friend, you might not get what’s going on. Maybe you also are afraid of losing your boyfriend or girlfriend. Violence and abuse are not acceptable in any relationship. Boys also experience abuse, especially psychological abuse.Maria has been clear that she doesn’t want to go any further than kissing, but Alfredo becomes aggressive, disregarding her request to slow down and back off. It’s exciting, romantic and fun, and you feel like nothing can go wrong. Maybe you think it’s worth it to put up with anything just to have someone special in your life. But if you see patterns of uncontrolled anger, jealousy or possessiveness, or if there is shoving, slapping, forced sex or other physical violence — even once — it’s time to find help. Imagine that your best friend is going with someone who thinks and acts that way. Boys rarely are hurt physically in relationships, but when it happens, it’s often severe.But knowing that love hurts doesn’t mean you should expect to get hurt — to be put down, slapped, embarrassed in front of your friends, pushed, yelled at, forced to have sex if you don’t want it, controlled by, or afraid of the person you’re going out with. Often a relationship doesn’t start out violent, but the violence starts after the two people have known each other for a while.