According to our internal metrics, at least, Ok Cupid’s users are better-educated, younger, and far more progressive than the norm, so I can imagine that many sites would actually have (Addendum to original post)As promised, here are the same-sex versions of last week’s charts and tables.In general, they show that straights and gays share many of the same inclinations, but the prejudices of the latter are perhaps a bit less pronounced.Lately, since we’ve been dealing with complex and data-intensive subjects like race and reply rates, we’ve had to restrict ourselves to straight data in the primary post.

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We will keep looking for ways to present the information you rightly expect; for now, it will be in addenda such as this one.

As a professional matchmaker, I’ve interviewed over 1,000 singles, and in the past two and a half years, I’ve made around 2,500 matches.

Here are the match and reply rates side-by-side, with similar rates colored yellow.

There’s no real need to inspect the numbers; just observe the similar colors. In general, the correlation between match percentage and reply rate means that whenever we compare the match/reply charts for a given breakdown of the population, they should look about the same.

First we’ll examine messages sent by men to women (I know our gay readers are interested in same-sex versions of these tables, there’s a link to them here and at the end of this post): Finally, here are a couple tables that shed further light on our discussion.

These are site-wide answers to a couple user-written match questions.

However, this, like so many other fine assumptions, totally breaks down when race gets involved: Again, don’t bother squinting, just check out the colors. So here’s last week’s compatibility by race table (I explained how we can confidently measure “compatibility” in that post).

This is a blow-up of the leftmost table above: As you can see, the races all match each other roughly evenly: good news.

We’ve processed the messaging habits of over a million people and are about to basically prove that, despite what you might’ve heard from the Obama campaign and organic cereal commercials, racism is alive and well. When I first started looking at first-contact attempts and who was writing who back, it was immediately obvious that the sender’s race was a huge factor.

It would be awesome if other big websites would go out on a limb and release their own race data, too. Here are just a handful of the numbers that illustrate that: The takeaway here is that although race shouldn’t matter in messaging, it does. First of all, how do we know that race shouldn’t matter?

To our friends in the gay and lesbian communities: thanks for being patient and waiting for this data.