During his initial contact with one woman, she mentioned she had several kids and my son asked if they were all by the same father. I realize people today think one’s sexual history shouldn’t matter, but doesn’t my son have a right to know how many other men he’s going to be involved with if he becomes involved with her?

How does one find out this kind of information relatively soon into the relationship?

Frankly, I don’t blame her for being offended, because it implied he thought she was promiscuous.

One would think that as a mature adult, if he had feelings for someone, he would continue the relationship and see where it led.

And why are you the one who wrote to ask me this and not your son? Carolyn Hax: Giving friend a mulligan for email outburst Dear Abby: We are all familiar with the rules of who pays for what in a wedding.

But you probably haven’t been looking for them for a variety of reasons.

If that sounds too old, remember that in 10 years you will be in that age group and your honey will only be in her late 40s.

For example, there could be lifestyle choices, career or family conflicts, or significant cultural and generational differences.

A 30-something client of mine recently started dating a man in his late 50s.Q: I’m 63 years old and have been divorced for 19 years.I have met several women over the years, some were very special relationships but never lasted.Dear Abby: My 40-year-old son signed up with an online dating site.He has a 17-year-old son and has never been married.In fact, putting it another way: If I loved someone I would want them to enjoy their active years and not be held back in any way by my own challenges as I entered my 80s and beyond.