I had a very awesome, open nurse who worked at the hospital I was at, and neither of us had any problems talking about sex.There was also a female quad who worked there who was 40 and who got hurt in her 20s, and she was very sexual and open, and I asked her a lot of questions.

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[Chris and I] had sex for the first time after the accident when two months had passed, and it was kind of like losing my virginity again.

We talked about it, we knew we would still be intimate, and we knew I wouldn't be able to crawl around on the bed and climb on top of him — but from the sex ed that I sought out since I was openly talking to people [at rehab], there were plenty of positions I could do.

The vagus nerve is responsible for the pleasure signals from sex and it totally bypasses your spinal cord and goes straight to your brain. And sometimes, other quads figure out how to get that, after years and years.

So that's why I'm kind of able to tell when I'm having sex and still feel aroused. But one positive difference, I would say, is that before the accident, it was always about having the orgasm. But as far as positions go, it's much easier to do missionary obviously with my legs — you'd hold them back, but what I do is kind of wrap my arms around my legs to make it easier.

I'd met Chris in college; he was my first boyfriend. We were staying at a friend's house who lived in Virginia Beach.

At night, my friends got me a limo like I had always wanted, and we went dancing.By 1 or a.m., I was kinda over it, and wanted to chill by the pool.So we went home, I ran upstairs to put my suit on, and stood at the side of the pool. he started humming this little ditty: "Where Joni goes, nothing grows." Right away, I thought, Here is a man I could like.'It's just the circumstances connected with my disability were so overwhelming.Before the accident, we were very sexual as a couple. We just connected so perfectly — sex was something that always brought us closer together, and it was scary to think what our lives would be like sexually [after the accident].