Here's how it works: Step 1: Write out two lists—the partner wish list and a list of things you like to do.

Make a list of every single thing you want in a partner. Instead of looking for that one perfect person, put the guys into categories and connect with any guy who has at least one quality that is on your list.

If you are fed up with modern dating to the point of insanity then you are exactly where I was when this method was born.

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Ever put too much energy in trying to make a stranger happy, only for them not to appreciate it?

When you find someone, do you burn that flame so bright it fizzles out at the first road bump?

I could be one of those guys that goes to galleries. It's about following my heart, my interests and my passions.

Rather than guess what someone else was looking for and try to be that, I needed to have faith that who I am and want in life is awesome and worth it and that trusting my gut will lead me to the kind of guy I deserve.

" Practicing with a PINER makes these relationships possible. At some point THE WILDCARD could walk in and go right to the head of the line. And be sure to schedule one personal day for yourself every two weeks.

The thing is…remember when our parents told us not to do something and it always made that "thing" appear more attractive? THE WILDCARD will help you stay at the top of your game and always looking your best. Not only will you grow as a person but these are great places to meet a WILDCARD.It's great to have one safe and familiar partner without expectations. You won't need the rush of the touch of a stranger. Only catch: THIS RELATIONSHIP MUST NEVER BE CONSUMMATED (while on your five-guy search).Show this person how loving you can be to another human being without sex clouding the atmosphere. The Wildcard: THIS GUY CAN COME INTO YOUR LIFE AND ALL BETS ARE OFF or he could be another dud.Who am I to say THE PINER won't end up being your 100% guy? Making out with him is fine but try to resist the urge to go all the way. STEP 3: Start Dating Your Team in Rotation Identify activities or passions you want in your life, but aren't in there currently. Since you are a busy person with friends, hobbies and work commitments, you can only date each one about every two weeks.Cinderella wasn't the obvious match for Prince Charming. And although THE PINER is best when you leave the lust out and they can teach you a lot about self-control, nothing can stop love. The Cheerleader: This guy knows all about you but likes you anyway and you shine just a little brighter around him. This is a guy who, as much as you try—I mean, —to be attracted to him, you're just not! After an enlightening foreign documentary screening with THE PROFESSOR, you may have to let him know you need to get up for an early meeting and be home by 11pm only to have THE STEADY waiting for you to call him over at midnight. This allows you to let the relationship with THE PROFESSOR grow while not wasting your time on a purely physical relationship. " you will shout as you hop into your Lyft, leaving him wanting more. Maintaining these dates becomes part of the game and the challenge here.I also realized that I needed to re-think my criteria for that 100% guy, especially when it came to the "just dating" phase. was only seeing a guy if I thought he might be the complete 100% package and that clearly wasn't working, this time I was going to try something different and date multiple people.